• The HSP and Difficult People

    "The HSP and difficult people" is an important topic. Cross, crass, cranky, demanding, demeaning people…if you’re an HSP, these folks are hard to take. From around the Web, I’ve collected four great articles. They are worth printing out to keep handy. They weren’t written specifically for the highly sensitive person. Still, the problems described are ones we certainly encounter. Furthermore, the solutions offered are ones that fit our values.Health expert and wellness coach Susan Biali, M.D. reminds us not to judge a prickly person too quickly: I’ve learned[...]

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    HSPs and Research

    Why would HSPs care about research? Why should anyone care about HSPs and research? The short answer: when studies were done on "what everybody believed," some things turned out not to be true...especially about the highly sensitive person. Case in point: before you heard about Elaine Aron’s research on the highly sensitive person, did you know that…? … when raised in an enriched, supportive environment, those with this “differential susceptibility” are actually happier, healthier, and more socially skilled than others.  -Elaine Aron, Ph.D., Researchers [...]

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    Plans, Goals, and Resolutions

    Is this a time of new beginnings? Time for changes in your life? Maybe a time of fresh promises to yourself and others? Perhaps the best one is to first brush up on which  goals, plans, and resolutions are most likely to work. Here are valuable goal-setting tips for the highly sensitive person and for everyone. This is an excerpt from Pillars of a Balanced Life: An Introduction to Goal-Setting for the Highly Sensitive Person, a free four-week email mini-course.Understanding the time factor is a way to pull back the curtain on the future and better predict our [...]

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    Parenting Styles and the Highly Sensitive Child

    HSP researcher Elaine Aron, Ph.D. has offered invaluable advice for parents and teachers of the highly sensitive children. She explains how they can help the HSC learn without harming him or her. In this post we also look beyond that to parenting styles and the highly sensitive child plus how those styles help or harm almost all children. Never use harsh discipline on HSCs. They tend to be extremely rule-conscious and usually only require gentle, private reminders. For some, just knowing they made a mistake will reduce them to tears. If reprimanded, punished, or embarrassed, they are [...]

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    The Highly Sensitive Child

    Were you a highly sensitive child? Are you raising one now? Here are some dynamite resources for understanding your own sensitivity and for parenting your precious youngster. If you’ve only read a few articles and still feel defensive about your sensitivity, resolve to learn more about what your parents and teachers didn’t know and couldn’t always help you with. You may find your sensitivity is far more of an asset than you had realized. Some things are worth “studyin’ on” and this is one of them. Begin with either—or better both—of the [...]

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    Your HSP Super Powers

    In this article, you’ll learn more about your HSP super powers, the character strengths that many highly sensitive people share, and about how many of us are blind to our best qualities, plus a simple exercise that can change that. Pre-eminent HSP researcher Elaine Aron, Ph. D. identified these qualities as common in the authentic HSP: creativity, imagination, empathy, intuition, reflection, wisdom, vocation, idea generation, depth, and perceptiveness. Other authors have also highlighted focus, passion, commitment, engagement, critical thinking, independent thinking, the ability to [...]

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    Goals and the Chronically Ill

    Four previous posts on goal-setting offered steps to increase your odds of success in choosing and achieving your goals. If you are one of the 50% of Americans who have at least one chronic health condition, however, those suggestions may not have helped you as much as you might like. If you are healthy, the odds are that someone you know is struggling every day to accomplish tasks you take for granted. Dr. Elaine Aron’s research has found that highly sensitive persons “raised in a positive environment are healthier, happier, and more productive” than non-HSPs. [...]

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    An HSP Coach Looks at Blogging

    The marketing gurus say that stories are what people love, and that I should be chatty and charming and tell you lots about my life. This is not comfortable territory for me as an HSP coach or as an introvert, nor for many of the highly sensitive.  I’ve been an instructor for different kinds of classes for a couple of decades and have reservations about using a class or blog for personal stories from my own life or that of people I know. Here's why.That someone else owns their story until they give me permission to share it. Establishing personal connections is valuable. [...]

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    Visualize Balance in Your Life

    Ready to visualize balance in your life as part of HSP goal-setting? Too many HSPs settle for less in life because they don’t know what they are truly capable of, and there is no one in their life to help them discover their true potential.  That’s the mission of Authenticity Coaching: to focus on what you feel "born to do" and unlock the full potential that’s in you.Imagine that your life could be graphed in a circular fashion. Perhaps parts are flourishing, others languishing. Your career is going well, but you are losing touch with friends or family. Or, you have [...]

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    Eight Tips on Pacing for the HSP

       Sometimes you have just too much going on. Especially if you are a highly sensitive person, there are times when you need to decrease your workload and increase your downtime. The goals, expectations, and standards under which you operate may or may not fit your energy level, values, or the amount of support available. If it’s time to make adjustments, here are eight tips on pacing for the HSP, a potpourri of options, some for home, others for the workplace.In the past you may have promised a specific turn-around time at work or at home. Can the time-frame can be [...]

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